Good morning from a peaceful place where I feel recharged!
I have been busy with my chaotic schedule ever since the holiday season. After my trip to China, my mother visited, and my high school best friend stayed at my place for a month. I was in four different time zones within a month. I felt detached from my normal life. It’s weird, but I was proud of myself for being able to survive and live on the edge (not that crazy, but is out of my routine): drove 7 hours at night from San Francisco back to LA while rain was pouring, did not miss the extreme flight at 6 a.m. to Chicago, was completely sober at clubbing, walked in the snow under -10°F after the show for more than half an hour, stayed up and drank every day in New York, and worked out and watched an environmental documentary in Vegas.
I saw so many friends! to the point that I’m stressed about not being able to remember everything we have done and talked about. But recalling a small but semi-significant interaction randomly feels like a sweet surprise. But then you suspect you have forgotten a lot more than you anticipated. I’m greedy for memories. I want to be able to reminisce and relive. That is why I (try to) document hangouts. I can count on them and trace back when I want to figure out what gift I should get you or if I’m being reasonable when I’m mad at you.
I saw my close friends from elementary school, middle school, and high school, friends I made last year in Brooklyn, college pea in a pod, and another good college friend who would cook late-night ramen for me. In total, it’s about twenty friends. It’s time to hibernate. And get to my optimal caffeine hits.
Anyway, I’ve been MIA, but I will give you an update near the end of age 27. If you’re reading this letter, I miss you, I am thinking about you, and I want to include you in my life journey.
TLDR: I met a boy. And he’s absurd.
If I were a base model, he would be the Gran Turismo. (a very generous compliment. I just want to use this analogy). He’s the extension of me, an advanced me, someone I look up to in many ways. And I like myself when I’m around him.
I can list so many good things about him.
As an individual: extremely decisive, smart, and ambitious; the longest-term planner I’ve ever met; a feeler engineer; a calculated optimist; a well-traveled and well-raised adventurer; loves what he does and is excited about life.
As a partner: created a “Cassie” list on notes, wrote down our to-dos since day 1; wants to show me the world; shares his work and progress of anything with me; communicative, thoughtful, and open-minded; empathetic, kind, calm, and loving at the core; is family-oriented, loves kids and his dog, has provider mindset; good at words of affirmation, act of service, quality time, gift-giving, and physical touch; proactively signed up Chinese classes so he can talk to my parents one day; dims the lights to set ambiance when it’s dinner time; good at cooking and cooks for me; home is clean and organized; brings me water all the time; got me crazy birthday gifts; booked our valentine’s day trip to the coolest house in Palomar Mountain and SF trip way ahead of time; took pilot duty and flew us from Santa Monica to Malibu; adds value to my life and always wants to make me happy.
Compatibility: our bedtime alarms go off an hour apart ever since the first date; we both wake up early (he also uses a wake-up light); prioritize health; calendar boy/girl; mature but fun texting style; ENFJ; agree on guidance for solving conflicts; love questions; love interior design and art; love pasta and sushi; not jaded, curious, love learning; play piano; get and play along with each other’s jokes; aligned values (based on so many great questions we’ve discussed).
Cons: with great capabilities comes great responsibilities and stress; potential burnout; does not like broccoli.
We will see where life takes us. There could be infinite possibilities: good or bad, a happy ending or a twist. Experience is for the plot and the sake of living. I hope we'll hang out soon. Then I can talk to you in person and update me on your life.
PS: Two acquisitions of this period: Panthella lamp and strawberry cake tattoo in red. They are so much joy. I got so many birthday presents, and it’s not even my birthday month yet. I feel spoiled this year already.
Love, Cassie